Pregnancy, Pain, And My Perfect Husband

“You’re beautiful,” he whispered.

Stretch marks race across my tightening skin, my wedding ring is in a drawer due to involuntary swelling fingers, and those extra 25 pounds have begun to give my face that “gathering-nuts-to-prepare-for-winter” look.

Eight months into marriage and 34 weeks pregnant, my winter-white body is a long ways from the tanned, whitened, waxed, and toned woman Elisha said “I do” to.

Yet every single day of our marriage, he has told me I’m beautiful. 

Every. Single. Day.

Those hot summer afternoons with my lean body brown in a swimsuit, that early first trimester when I struggled with bloating and scarring acne, or these final weeks of feeling like a beached whale . . .

“You’re hott,” he winks.

Pretty. Sexy. Beautiful.  

As a girl that relied more on her genes than she realized, I’ve struggled coming to grips with things I simply can’t control in pregnancy. I’ve fought the hard reality that regardless of how I eat, or workout, or try, in some ways my body will do whatever the heck it wants.

And he’s been there the whole time. Loving me. Cherishing me. Making me feel beautiful.

The beauty and trial of marriage is that you can’t hide yourself. No make-up, no tactful clothing, no smoke and mirrors to hide the flaws.

And yet my striking husband, still chooses to tell me every day that somehow, to him, I am beautiful.

To me, his opinion is all that matters. 

Because of Elisha’s unconditional love, it’s easy for me to believe there’s a God that loves me wholly and deeply despite my imperfections. My husband is an example of Christ’s ability to look at our hearts instead of judging outside appearances. 

May we all choose to see the beauty,

The Kathryn Joy 


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4 thoughts on “Pregnancy, Pain, And My Perfect Husband

  1. Oh, Kathryn, this is beautiful! Bless Elisha’s heart. Your grandpa has encouraged me the same way for 50 years. What a picture of God’s love and of Christ’s love for the church.
    I love you, Grandma

  2. I stumbled upon this post and it encouraged me so much! I’m just about 32 weeks pregnant, and I must say some of the feelings you have shared in this post and also 5 Things I Learnt while Being Pregnant ring so true for me too. I love being pregnant but I wouldn’t be honest if I didn’t admit that at times I’ve struggled with all the changes that take place within your body (no matter what you do, you really have no control over a lot of them!!) I am so blessed with my wonderful husband of 9 months who also tells me I’m beautiful every single day, and has supported me through each challenge and change… so thankful and amazed that He somehow dee’s the beauty and it so highlights Christ’s gospel love for His Church. Thank you for sharing your journey here and for these words that have encouraged me so much today xo

    1. Aww! This made my day, Kate! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts! I’ll be praying for a safe delivery . . . and make sure you give yourself grace for the “4th trimester.” Postpartum may feel like it lasts forever, but it doesn’t! 🙂

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